My Family’s Role in the society
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Loading ...My family plays a very important role in the society. My family can be classified according to various categories. In the first category which is according to organization, structure, and membership, my family is nuclear. I can say that we are a nuclear family because; I have my father, mother, and lots of brothers and sisters. We are a one big happy family. Sad to say that we are so big and I must admit that we were criticized by others for that reason. But nevertheless, I don’t care what they say as long as I have a big happy family.
According to place of residence, my family is matrilocal. We lived to my grandparent’s house ever since the day that I was born. My parents had an early marriage, in fact, my mother haven’t reached twenty yet, when they got married. At my mother’s young age, maybe she didn’t know how to raise a child yet; my parents decided to live in my grandparent’s house. We lived there in a random number of years. Random because, every time my parents and grandparents had a fight, we moved temporarily away from my grandparent’s. After a few weeks or a month, my grandparent’s would be begging and asking for forgiveness to make us stay with them. So we stay with my grandparents. Then after a few months or a year, there would be another fight again, another begging to stay, then we stays. Another fight, begging, it was repeated all over again. But there was one fight that I would never forget even all through out my entire life. It took a very long serious fight. I was so angry because the only reason is the one little stupid cassette tape! If only I had that tape, I would crushed and make it like pieces of paper. It was only ended during my second year college. A week before my grandmother died. I think it took more than ten years. And it was never been happy ever after. At the present we lived near my grandparent’s house. After the long big fight, I didn’t hear a fight between them again. It was never been the same after that. All things had changed. It seems like happiness is hard to find. I cannot see the perfect smile in their eyes anymore. And it makes me confused asking, does complete happiness comes after a fight?
If my family is classified according to descent, it is matrilineal. I am on my mother’s side in terms of closeness to relatives. My mother’s relatives treated us, as if we were their own child. They provide us every thing that we would ask. From food, toys and even their joy and happiness have been shared to us. I could still remember the happy moments every time we went to the beach when we celebrate birthdays and holidays together. Sometimes at night we were watching fireflies as they light up our night, followed by story telling, joking, laughing, playing and a lot more fun together. Those are the happiest moments of my life. But each time I thought of those, I can’t stop the rain falling from my eyes. It makes me a sad person sometimes, when this thought crosses my mind. My happy moments which make me a saddest man you’ll ever know… perhaps, because long have I been waiting for that things to happen again…
My family is patriarchal when it is classified according to authority. It was my father who decides what’s best for the family. He is the one who disciplined us whenever we commit mistakes. My father is a strict person in terms of how we behave, but all in all he is a sweet and a very loving father. Although his decision is always honored, he will also listen to my mother’s opinion.
In terms of how my family functions as a member of the society, my family performs all the function there is.
The first function of the family which my family performs effectively is socializing children. My parents exposed me to the world at my very young age. They have thought me how to communicate and interact with other people. Especially my father, he used to bring me to his work place. My father’s workmate used to play with me during there office hours. A lot of them likes playing with kids. That’s why I enjoyed playing with them also. We also had some time to relax, walk around and go with parties to my mother’s friends.
Another function of my family is providing me the emotional intimacy and support. In a sense that they always provide me comfort and they are always there to help me with my problems. And they made me secure whenever I had insecurities and worries. They are the one who guide me on my first day of school. And I’m confident to say that they were my defender when I had a fight in school. I am very confident when I am with them, because with them I feel like they are my guardian angel. Which will protect me at all times and at all cost.
When it comes to providing care and attention, I had a lot of it. Maybe because of the fact that I was the eldest, that’s why I had all their attention. In fact, their was one time when my younger brother got jealous because of that reason. I always cry when we had a fight with my brother during our childhood days. Of course, he would be angry because, from toys, attention, to praises is all given to me. It’s always me who is good, it’s always me who is great, and some sort of that or what so ever. That’s what they say. But I didn’t feel any of those. It would only cause a fight between me and my brother, that’s why I don’t like it. We are always fighting on toys. In order to please my brother, sometimes I would share my toys with him or we even exchange things just to make him happy. All I wanted with him is to play with me. And whenever my father would bring me to his work place and go around for a walk. My brother would cry because he wants to go with us. I always told my father to bring him with us. But my father would say that he was too noisy. I’m not very much happy with that because I was thinking of my brother left at home. When I reached high school. My brother was engaged with so many vises. One of which is drinking alcoholic drinks, smoking, and even taking prohibited drugs. When I knew that he was into that habit, I started refusing things and privileges from my parents. And I ask them to give or to pay more attention to my brother instead. I blame my self for all the bad things that happened to my brother’s life. And I’m not happy being favored. I’d rather be the one who’s not being favored because I want to know how does it feels being the one who is unfavored. And I was thinking maybe I’m not the one who needs attention because I’m the eldest and therefore I can take care of my self more often than my younger brother. Anyway, I gave and pay attention to them also, being the eldest. And I love my responsibility being the eldest. The only thing that I don’t like is being so much favored.
Another function of my family is providing my social status. My father is a well known person, not of what he has but because of his good character. Because of that I was also recognized. Being the son of a well known father, I earned respect to people that surrounds me.
Another is providing mechanism for social control. This function is exercise by my father in order to preserve our family’s good name. He thought us to go home early and punishes us every time we commit mistakes. Although his not that hard or strict on us, but he does it in order to make us conform to his regulations. But he also takes consideration if we only commit minor or mistakes that are considerable.
My family functions also in providing me education. It is where I first learn how to read and to write. The very important aspects that I learned from my family are the values that more or less made me a better person. It is where I learn the basic of communicating to people. They became my first teacher. And they are excellent in doing their job not only in helping me do my homework but also in teaching us good aspects of life.
All of these functions of family have been performed effectively by my family. A family in which you can count on whenever you need help, a family of hope, a family of encouragement, and a family which no one could ever replace. A family which no body gets left behind…
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